Wave: I am so sorry that you have had so many problems finding a psychiatrist! First of all, if I were you, I would not go back to that doctor who scared you. It is very important to have a good interrelationship with your psychiatrist,especially. You didn't seem to have any confidence in him, and I can certainly understand why!!!
Why don't you call the first psychiatrist - the one you had to wait to get an appointment with. It's worth the wait. In the meantime you have the diazepam to calm you down; but those drugs aren't meant to be taken regularly. I haven't had as bad luck as you have, but I easily could have if I had been in a different environment. My mother was like your father - very domineering and over-protective; and I grew up feeling very insecure. I knew I wasn't happy or content as were my friends; but I didn't know where to turn. I finally heard about an excellent psychiatrist, who helped me understand a lot about myself; i.e. that I was responsible for the way I felt and that I couldn't expect people to treat me with respect if I didn't respect myself. I also realized that I need to take an anti-depressant and have been taking Prozac for the past 4 years. It has helped me tremendously. I now put things in perspective and don't get anxious and worried about every little thing and my confidence in myself has grown. I'm not trying to diagnose you, but I just wanted you to know about my experience. It doesn't matter if you have to wait a while to see a good psychiatrist - one that has a really good reputation and, hopefully, has been recommended by your doctor or a good friend. And don't be afraid to shop around until you find one that you can relate to. There are many good (and bad) psychiatrists out there.
Good luck! :)