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I have spent the last couple of nights reading the many posts here that revolve around my situation and I will say the posters on here seem to have unparalleled devotion to helping people get the support the so desperately need.

I've dealt with a BP wife for the last 7.5 years and it has not been easy to say the least. This was my first marriage at 26 and it was her 3rd at 26. The warning signs were on the wall but due to some co-dependcy issues I had from an alcoholic father I stayed in. Throughout the last 7.5 years we have had constant up and downs where she has told me she didn't love me one minute to I was the best thing that ever happened to her the next. When I met her she was certainly in a manic state looking for someone to bring her forward and I just happened to be there. Now knowing basically her complete past I'm only the most recent casualty of her BP. She was officially dx in July of 2005 after she left and filed for divorce, bought a new house only to come running back 25 days later.

We have just filed for divorce once again (Nov 2006); she has already bought another property and moved out. We have 2 boys together (3 & 5) and two step-daughters (11 &13) from the previous marriage. One of those daughters was adopted by the 2nd husband and was not from the 1st husband. She has cheated numerous times, spent thousands of dollars trying to make herself happy and in the end always want to think I'm the one who needs to change. I have tried everything to no avail and I really believe she is still at a point of denial about her illness. She admits to mild depression and has been on Prozac for the last 3 years sporadically but I feel with it truly being BP that medication is doing nothing to truly stabilize her.

With the current divorce only about 5 weeks old she has already hooked up with someone else as she did with the last filing in April 0f 2005. She appears to be cycling again because she is starting to call to have small talk about things that have nothing to do with what's at hand. Last year I knew when she was dropping and almost timed it to the day when she wanted to come back. Now with 2 divorce filings and the fact she has bought 2 properties (we still have the other $300K house she bought last year) I just can't imagine going back to this nightmare any longer. I still love the person I fell in love with but she has been far and few between in the last 7.5 years. Her family completely enables it and not to mention her Granny, Aunt and her sister suffer from BP also.

I think last year when we filed I went back to save my children. I figured this will never change and at least I'll be there for the next 15 years rather then 10 other guys and 10 more divorces. I guess I'm at a loss but I also know that after this path of destruction she has caused once again she will in the end want to come back. I have to hold my ground and not let her push any more of my buttons. She must take responsibility for her illness or my children will suffer for years to come. I could have given a much more detailed account of my last 7.5 years but I think you get the picture.

I've been used and abused. I feel as though at 34 I can find someone that I can truly give all that I can give without all the BS I've gotten from her. I know my reactions to her BP probably fed the fire over time but I will say I've been more than patient and just can't imagine myself in this tornado any longer.

Please any thoughts or advice would help me at this trying time....