I am new to this board but I hope that I will be able to be a regular, time permitting. My story is that I am 52 female, adopted mother of 2 teenagers ( siblings, 16 yo daughter and 17 year old son). Adopted them in 1991, married to hubby in 1995, August 2006 hubby moved out saying he could not stand the way the kids treated him anymore.
Son and hubby had been having probs for about 2 years, son was sent to military boarding school last year for 1 semester to try to give him more support and structure (and discipline) and get the two fellas away from each other for awhile.
After the separation all hell broke loose, son and daughter both confused, angry, oppositional, depressed, etc (me, too). Son now diagnosed with Bipolar and taking Depakote ER ( and its working nicely). Daughter had medical problems which resulted in her being removed from her private school and now is being homeschooled ( which she really does not like but it doing ok at it). We are working on her medical issues but the reduced stress in her life seems to be resolving most of them ( she now lives with my mom only 8 blocks away ...moved her to protect her from the physical aggression of her brother, give her the 1:1 attention that my mother can give her, and give her a brake from me and bro)...She is on meds but I think she also needs a mood stabilizer and will be taking her to dr soon..she is already on Prozac but it does not address her "rage/meltdowns" that occur whenever she is frustrated and stressed.
WE are all in therapy and it seems to be helping. Dad visits about 2x a month. He withholds his attention when he feels they are misbehaving so we have decided not to tell him things that aren't major in size. No, he did not adopt the kids but he is the only dad they know.
I joined this board bcz I need a place to share my concerns and to talk to others who share this road of raising bipolar teenagers with me.
thanks for listening.
feel free to comment or make suggestions, I am not thin skinned...