Hi Sherry, and welcome to the board. I suffer from many of the same problems that your boyfriend has, although I have had no surgery as of yet. My muscles spasms are nearly constant, and can be felt very easily in certain spots of my back, especially as the day progresses, or I have put any sort of strain on my back. I also take Valium and Soma for the spasms, but I have found that Soma works much better for me. Tried Flexeril for a while and it gave me terrible dry mouth, and not much relief, but as Pepper stated, everyone is different, and responds to medications differently. I have also found relief from a good rubdown with Biofreeze, but nothing seems to give me relief like my good old heating pad. Too bad I couldn't carry that to work with me LOL! We will keep your boyfriend in our prayers, and yourself also. I know that chronic pain affects the whole family.