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My wife of two years is hiding meds, drinking while taking pain killers and she will not stop.....

It all started when we first started dating. She was taking some sort of pain medicine and when I asked her about it she said it was becuase of her job and she would have pain sometimes. I think it was Ultram? As far as I know that stopped.

Then we got pregnant and she developed bad headaches. We went to specialists and had MRI's, xrays and everything. They found nothing. The Dr gave her several migraine meds, none worked? They then put her on Hydrocodone. That worked. So she took it through much of the pregnancy and then stopped when the Gynocologist told her our baby would be born addicted to Hydrocodone.

I found out that after I returned to work she started taking Hydrocodone again, even while breastfeeding. I found the meds becuase I did not trust her and I checked the health insurance web site and got the prescrip history.

Then we had nothing that I knew of for a while. Then her foot began to hurt, where she had surgery before. She again got Hydrocodone. this time she asked me to hold the pills and give her some as she needed. She said she was worried about not being able to control herself. That was in May. Here we are in August and she is still taking them.

Sometimes she will have 1 or 2 glasses of wine while she is still taking the pills. I get upset and she shuts down. One time she basically told me that this was her and she was going to leave.


I have to tell you that I have not been easy to talk to. I have a very bad temper. One time I broke the door in half inside the house. I have thrown and broken things, yelled, screamed, threatened and cut myself. I feel like "how could she do this to me, to us?" I know that my temper and explosive reactions are not good and do not help her open up to me. I cannot help but make this about me, when it is not.

The last time I really went off was when I found some phentermine in her nightstand. (She went to rehab over 9 years ago for meth addiction. I did research and found that phentermine is an appetitie supressant, but it can give false positive tests for meth in urine. I know it is a CNS stimulant.) so when I found it I went off and broke a metal drawer in the garage and yelled and screamed at her in the middle of our street. She told me she had only taken a few and she would take no more.

In the past few weeks I noticed she is getting skinny (123 lbs) and has dry lips. She is also not sleeping well and now she is taking Ambien to sleep. I found some phentermine in her closet, and I know that she took two of them today. I am not sure why she is taking this, she is very thin. I do know she works allot and maybe this helps for work??? Maybe it is a substitute for meth, what is next?

I do not know what to do. I love her. We have a baby together and she means the world to my other children from another marriage. We are both professionals and we make great money and live in a great home. I have never hit her, but I know I am out of control when I get really angry.

I want to confront her, but I know she is going to deny and then I do not know if she will get made and leave???? I am going to talk with a pastor today and get this off my chest.

We have tried counseling and she does not want to go and confront the issues of the pills. Basically she is taking pain meds, diet pills during the day for a pick-me-up and sleeping pills becuase the phentermine is a stimulant.

What can I do? I know I cannot change her, control her or stop her. I know I that I love her and I will do whatever it takes. Am I worrying too much? I see some people are taking 20+ vicoden a day, she takes 2 to 3. She is taking 1/2to 1 ambien. She is taking 1 to 2 phentermine. I know that is not allot, yet I am worried about the addict behavior, lying, hiding and craving. I have never had an addiction, I do not know how she feels. On the same token I need to be able to trust her, if she can lie about this, what else can she lie about?

Any help would be great....