There are plenty of meds they can give you to give her before you go to your appt including valium that will really make her easy going about it. But as with the last poste, why is general out of the question? If she is THAT scared, at least IV sedation may be the way to go. It would make it the experience the least painful and she will hardly even remember it. Also, is this a general dentist, a specialist, or an oral surgeon? I would go with an oral surgeon for this proceedure. They have much more experience with using different meds for these sorts of cases.