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:(:) Felt I could add a little here. Hope you don't mind. It may sound very cliche', but when facing a similar situation I was living with a saying. Goes something like: If you love a bird and with your whole heart you know it needs to fly and be free., let it go and if it is meant to be it will return to you.

I also prayed the serenity prayer day by day, it was on my mirror in the bathroom. And other days, I was in constant prayer. And letting go was the hardest thing I have ever done in my life.

Years ago, my husband and I had been married for 4 years and he was unable to work for 2 years and no income or social security. At the time depression was the main diagnosis. He was seen at a local Veterans Hospital for pdoc and meds. The meds piled up from zoloft to depekote, and then valium. I was concerned as this combination seemed strange. I went to all his appointments and soon the doc even thought it ok for my husband to drink when he felt like it. A battle thus insued.

He was lost in his illness and nothing I did would slow the decline. I was supporting a family of 4 and just kept plugging along in a haze of my own depression. I remember a time when my doc asked me when I was considering leaving him, would I be able to handle him taking his life. I struggled with that to say the least. And instead had him commited with the help of my brother who testified of my husbands frayed behaviors.

Needless to say the Veteran doc saw a new man when he was in the hospital and he was released within 48 hours. The decline continued with him trying to drive after drinking and falling out of the car when he got home. It was then that I asked him to get his own apartment and find a way to better health for the sake of our family.

He began to look and found a local job and was able to save, (I thought) for the deposit. I came home after a long day of work expecting him to let me know he had found and put down a deposit on an apartment. And what actually happened he went out and bought a gun.

At that very moment, it was over, and I knew I had to get safe with my children. It took a week and I left the state and ended up myself in the hospital unable to speek for about 10 days. It was a long road back and I did let go. He hit bottom within a few weeks and he went back home with his family.

Nine months later, we spoke, he had found a doctor who helped him and he was the person I married again. It was the longest 9 months of my life and today we have been together everyday for the last 8 years and I have my soul mate again.

I know no situations are ever the same, but I can truly say, leaving was the best thing for all of us. When we got back together, my family thought I had lost it, but with time my family grew to trust what we had done. There have been down times and we meet them head on and will know that we truly had to walk thru fire to get where we are today.

Just know to reach out for help when YOU need it and remember some people have to find their way with you or perhaps with out you.
Sorry if this is too long, but I hope it helps you.

Take good care, genes