Hi Takeitaway. Im Tammy. And by posting to this board, we here can indeed HELP you by sharing our stories and what has worked for us and offer you our full support here to help make you feel just a little better knowing you are not alone. We all post here for that reason.
You have alot going on in there for sure. If you are suffering from spasms, vicodin is not enough. I have had back issues since age 18, 44 now. I managed to raise two kids through it. Last 3 years though.. things got the worst. Have DDD, bulging disc at L5-S1, and L4-L5 was leaking badly. I had sciatica badly, numbness, tingling, back was in constant spasm, and the list goes on. Most days I could barely walk. I limped my way everywhere. stop and limp on.
I had a fusion done a 4 weeks ago on the L4-L5. So far so good. But, through all this, I have taken many meds to help me through to this point and now. And I worked for over the last two years through to this point but it wasnt easy.
Your ortho.. how good at talking to this ortho are you? Do you "trust" this doctor? I had one ortho surgeon that I thought I trusted and she turned out to be a quack but it took me two years to find that out. After wising up, I searched and took 4 more surgeons to find the right one that would listen to me, rather than just talk AT me.
First, you need more medication to help you through some of the pain you are having regardless where PT or an impending surgery down the road may lead you to. Vicodin helps with the pain, but it does not really help with muscle spasms. What strength of Vicodin are you taking? (Before surgery I had 5/500 and could take 1-2 every 4-6 hours. After surgery it doubled to 10/500 1-2 every six hours.) There are many muscle relaxers out there. Personally, I swear by Skelaxin and have been using periodically when needed for the past 3 years. It works to loosen things up some and it does not make me loopy. I am a paralegal, and I can take this and function fine at work with a low dose of Vicodin along with it. Taking meds in concert, "can greatly help ease your discomfort some" and hopefully be a bit more tolerable so you might be able to do a few more things around the house.
Try try try not to get down and feel guilty. This is not your fault. It's luck of the draw. Just now you have to get tougher than ever and keep up good spirits, it really makes a difference. If you give up, then everyone sees it, and more importantly they feel it with you. Your kids need to know you hurt, and have them do little things to help mom out some. You can think of some games to do, or rewards to that help motivate them. All sorts of stuff to try. But try to keep the house happy too, by positive things with the kids, fun shows, things that make everybody laugh. Laughter is great medicine anytime!
Heat works to loosen the muscles initially, but then.. you got ice that area down. It reduces the swelling and really helps take that knotted pain down a few notches each time. I bought a polar ice pack (flat 10x12 bag) that is flat but has chemicals in it that you freeze and they stay really cold. But it bends and conforms to your body so you can lay on it, sit on it, wrap it around a leg, whatever. It's incredible stuff! (hehehe i should be a spokesperson for the stuff. hehehe).
In the hubby department, I dont know your situation, and our spouses get stressed out through all this. He is suffering right along with you in this. You are feeling this together, only you get the extra part, the pain. Is this your best friend? Hopefully you can sit down and discuss how each other is feeling and come to an understanding. Does he have any clue how guilty your feeling right now? Maybe so, maybe not. A little conversation, rather than avoidance, can take all the tension away. (I think it's very normal for him to be feeling the strain now, as it sounds like he didnt have to do these things before, as you took care of these things he now has to do.)
Woman are normally the caregivers (not slighting the men that take care of households in anyway) in a home and family. Now, it's his turn to play that role, until you can.
Well enough of my babble. I hope some of this has helped you and that you can call that doctor or another doctor and get some meds to help you further ease your pain right now. (DON'T WAIT.. Call SOMEONE) Welcome to the boards and please continue to post here and maybe lift your spirits some. You are in good company here. Feel better. Tammy