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Re: I am new to being deaf.. need friends.... Please help

Re: I am new to being deaf.. need friends.... Please help

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Posted by dorothy on December 04, 1998 at 12:49:25:

In Reply to: I am new to being deaf.. need friends.... Please help posted by Serenity on September 05, 1998 at 10:52:48:

: Hi my name is Serenity,
: I am new to being totally deaf. I am 29 yrs. old. I just became totally deaf. I became deaf from being beaten by my ex..spouce. I am scared and don't have any friends. I feel so isolated and alone.. I would like to meet some permanent friends. I am engaged to be married. I don't know what is available in the deaf community as far as online.. I would like to find chat rooms and other things.. for entertainment.. I would also like to find electronice free mail greeting. Hope you would like to know me. I am a Christian.. I am losing hope. Hope to hear from you soon..
: God Bless you..
: Friends,
: Serenity
Hello Serenity,
I am not totally deaf, but "legally" deaf. Without the hearing aid its pretty sad trying to hear stuff. I have Menieres disease which leads to total deafness over a period of time. I did not know for many years that I could use an aid, so I spent lots of time bawling when I finally could hear things like clocks again. Still ask about sounds that I have no reference to understand. Anyways, there are in every city I think clubs for the deaf. we went and folks were real friendly, both hearing and deaf can go. Music is loud so you can feel it to dance to. Take a sign language class or several. This will help you communicate with others like yourself. I found that if people speak normally, not trying to form words slow so you understand, that it is easy to pick up "lip reading" which I do mostly. Of course you do have to remind people to face you which they forget lots. I know it is hard to have a sense of humor for your situation, being beaten to deafness, but humor about deafness helps. My friends got me a shirt that said "i'm not deaf, I'm ignoring you." which got lots of laughs. The more you are around people, the better it gets. Don't hide. And be upfront..I am have to look at me. You WILL run into those who think Deaf means Stupid...ignore them!!! There are too many good ones out here. There are all kinds of neat gadgets like do-hickeys to flash lights when the phone or doorbell rings. Deaf phone stuff is available through the phone company. I missed my ears dreadfully, but I had too many things I do that don't depend on ears. I still ride and show my horses, just let the ring people know first so they can let me know changes with hand signals. Even the crowd gets into it if I am facing away. God bless you...keep your chin up!!

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