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Re: Husband newly diagnosed w/Hep C...Please help me cope

Re: Husband newly diagnosed w/Hep C...Please help me cope

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Posted by Leslie on February 11, 2000 at 17:06:43:

In Reply to: Husband newly diagnosed w/Hep C...Please help me cope posted by Tray on January 09, 2000 at 22:52:40:

: My husband was diagnosed with Hepatitis C a couple of days ago. I am 8 months pregnant with 2 kids. I have not been tested yet. I'm going tomorrow or the next day. We believe it is from IV drug use my husband experianced with in the early 70's. We have been married for 6 years and have been monogamous for 9 years.

: I can't begin to tell you how confused, depressed, scared and angry I am about this. Do our kids have the condition? Do I have it? Is there a risk to my unborn child?

: My greatest concern is the fact that my husband's doctor just nonchalantly said we should have protected sex. Just like that?!! Like she is reading from a pamphlet! We have been with each other for over 10 years, why should we practice safe sex now if this is something he may have had for over 25 years?

: Of course, that is not my only concern, but it's a big one. I am also concerned about contamination through our kids accidently coming in contact with his razor, his toothbrush. How sick is he going to get? Is he going to get sick? Is he going to die? How far along is he? He has no symptoms, other than abnormal liver function tests. From what I've read, it is a low chance that he will develop liver cancer, but judging just from the fact that he has the disease, I'm not going by percentages anymore.

: And then if gets very sick, will he be able to work? I've heard that interferon rarely ever works and the side effects sound worse than the disease! Is this something he will have no choice but to undergo?
I'm sorry to hear your news. I have gone thru the same agony this week as you and saw your posting the other day. I waited until my results came back. Gratefully, mine are all negative as I'm hoping yours are to. Although I can not say the same for my mate. I to imagined all sorts of things and having the last five days to imagine the worst, I forgot that my kids were watching my reaction to our bad news. I have faith that I can cure my mates hep C. He's very sick and running a business that's fast paced right now and not benifical to helping him to recover. If your interested in the methods e-mail back and I'd be glad to share them. The first and foremost is the love you have for your husband. He's still the same man he was the day before you got the news. I too, was angry and upset, but the ways of transmission are smaller today, but the 60's, 70's, and 80's were not. My mate believes he got his from tattoo's. We're optomistic about curing this thru a book we follow. Obviously your husband is a changed man, and what he did in the past is just that the past. Our doctor wants us to not try the experimental drugs, which we would never contemplate either. I have a friend who got hep C from a blood transfusion in the 70's, he's fathered four children, worked until last year, and is only now breaking down. I attribute his body breakdown to lifestyle. But he's now willing to try the methods we're using as he's nothing to lose now. He started using a wheelchair this last x-mas. Although he's had this for over 20 years, there are others with it even longer. Keep your chin up and remember love helps get thru the rough spots and you've got baby's who need both strong parents. Good luck and things will get work out.
: I am so upset about this, so scared...I can't seem to talk to him about it. I tried and all he says how do you think I feel, I am the one that has it! I know that, but when he's sick it effects all of us. And when I try to talk, he gets upset and then I start crying (mostly pregnancy hormones acting up) and then he can't deal with it and walks out.

: I don't know how to deal with all of this. I just don't know how. I get physically ill whenever I think about this lifestyle change. I feel like we all got a death sentence.

: I was so worried about AIDS when it first came out, was I exposed? For years, I couldn't bring myself to get tested. I panicked whenever I though of it. Finally, when I got pregnant...I had to be tested. I was beyond relieved when it was negative. I thought to myself if I have that disease, I'll kill myself. I just couldn't imagine living a life like that. Well, it seems as though we have to lead a life that now and there is just no way around it.

: Please someone help me get through this. I'm losing it. I can't seem to look at him the same way.

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