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Re: Social Anxiety

Re: Social Anxiety

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Posted by Aimee on September 27, 2000 at 18:08:37:

In Reply to: Re: Social Anxiety posted by april on August 28, 2000 at 18:39:34:

I just wanted to say that i have researched and analyzed all the medication options for social
anxiety and it looks as if serzone is the best bet, in most cases being very effective. But you
have to make sure you start slow on the medication, starting at 50 mg the first week, and
adding 50 mg each following week until you get to the dosage you are looking for (450 mg from
my research looks to be a good dosage for social anxiety).

: Hey Chris. I know what you are going through. I have social anxiety disorder and I know how disabling it can be. I suggest you talk to a medical professional because it can help. You are not alone: one in eight Americans suffers from SAD. There are both medications and talk therapies. I suggest you look for help. Try,, or
: : Chris, I know what you are talking about. Although I work in a different environment I still feel the same way. This disease is holding me back in every walk of life (work, friendships, social activities, sexual relationships)I too know I am highly capable and intelligent, but because of my nervous disposition and subsequent inability to concentrate I come across as aloof, foolish and clumsy. I am a laughing stock at work (I work in the building trade and find that there is a lot of mickey taking between 'the lads' I just cannot handle it). I find that when somebody says something to me I cannot think of a witty comeback (until maybe when I am relaxed a little more at home) I just go bright red, sweat and try to cover my extreme distress with a stupid smile and If I do try and retort I often stammer and find the words come out all wrong, both of these responses just seem to reinforce peoples beliefs that I am simple or an idiot. I have few real friends but they too see me as a bit of a loose cannon and if I do try and go out with them I feel so uncomfortable. I would not even dare contemplate trying to chat a girl up even though I desperately would love a girlfriend. I know that I am quite good looking, intelligent and funny but I don't 'feel' it. It is true you can't say 'don't pick on me I have social phobia' - people would have a field day laughing! Although their are plenty of caring people out there, most don't give a toss. People love confidence, how confident a person you are is how popular you are. I basically feel that I have f*@?ed my chance at a decent life. I was happy to try meds and cognitive behavioural therapy but they do precious little, although they may take the edge off my problem a little. If I were you I would see a GP or shrink - you never know, it could be a chemical problem or a learned behaviour that can be overcome - and maybe some of the subsequent agorophobia, depression, panic attacks and anxiety (that I know that I suffer with) could also be dealt with. I was glad to hear Amy had success with paxil, I didn't - or with prozac, citalopram, buspar, moclobemide, clomipramine, nardil, anetenol or pindolol. The chances are a true life long social phobia is inherited genetically and their is precious little you can do about it apart from live with it. I don't wish to sound too negative, but at least you know you're not alone.

: : : : I just wanted to add something else. I also
: : : : think that it is hurting my career. I think
: : : : that I am not getting ahead because of it even
: : : : though I know that I am intelligent and competent. It is hurting my chances for new
: : : : opportunities. I am just not myself sometimes
: : : : and I feel that I come off looking stupid,
: : : : weak and incompetent. I feel that all of this
: : : : stemmed from my past. I have had a lot of negative relationships throughout my life and
: : : : this could be the result. I don't know how
: : : : to change it. I am against going on medication
: : : : because of the side affects. I am currently not going to a counselor. Does anyone know of
: : : : any support groups.

: : : :
: : : : : I have a problem. I think that I suffer from a
: : : : : social anxiety disorder. To make matters worse, I
: : : : : work in a large office atmosphere.(which doesn't help)
: : : : : There are always many people around and it makes me
: : : : : nervous. My boss even told me in a roundabout way
: : : : : that my social skills are lacking. I know this. How
: : : : : do I explain to him how I feel. I feel if I tell
: : : : : him what's really going on he will think that I am crazy. Many people begin stereotyping you once you admit to having this type of problem. There is such
: : : : : a stigma attached. Many people in that place already treat me like I'm some kind of freak. Does
: : : : : anyone else have this problem?
: : : : :

: : :
: : : Chris, I had similar problems and went on Paxil (I'm not changing to Serzone because I gained too much weight on Paxil). I also had acute anxiety and panic attacks. I know EXACTLY how you feel. I felt awful in the office environment and when we were in large meetings all I would think about is how in the world I could get out of the room without making a scene. I often felt I was on the verge of fainting. Well, the Paxil helped immensely. An example: I'm starting a new job and I had to go to the annual "state of the union" company meeting. I was among the first to arrive and sat in the back of the room. The room filled beyond capacity and I was sitting crowded in the back and would have had to make quite a few people move or stand befoer I could get out. Pre-Paxil I would have been sweating with anxiety and probably would have spent the entire TWO hours simply talking myself out of panicking. Well, on Paxil, I was still slightly uncomfortable but didn't feel the acute panic. I also had to introduce myself and did so slowly and deliberately without speaking fast and turning bright red. Think about meds. I was TOTALLY against it and WANT to be off them but maybe you need to just try it. Hope it helps

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