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Re: don't want to be a burden

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Posted by sebo on July 28, 2000 at 09:55:54:

In Reply to: don't want to be a burden posted by Liz on July 22, 2000 at 17:09:59:

: I have had m.s. for nineteen years and am still working as an office nurse. My balance and walking are not great.I am married to the love of my life. He is a professional musician who works on cruise ships. Right now he is in the Mediterranean for 6 weeks. When he goes away I have fears that I am a burden to him, but I am afraid to talk to him about it .If I ask him to stay and turn down a chance to travel the world,am I being selfish.How do I say the words? .

Dear Liz,

You are more fortunate than others. Realize this first. The most "fortunate" thing is that you are still married after 19 years! Are you quite sure that it is your MS condition that is making you concerned about your relationship with your husband? I may be looking too close but are you worried about these prolonged distances between the two of you? I would be concerned that my husband and I maintain a mutual understanding of our gifts to each other and of each others limits of what each can tolerate before becoming unhappy. Once you can settle these questions then I think a lot of your concerns will fade away.
I know of a good book that you may enjoy reading. It is titled 'Passages of Marriage' by Frank Minirth (of the Minirth/Meyer Clinic),Newman, and Hemfelt.
I'm sorry. I hope this helps you.

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