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Re: help me help meeeeee

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Posted by :0) on October 07, 2000 at 20:07:45:

In Reply to: help me help meeeeee posted by lindsay on October 07, 2000 at 16:45:42:

Well, i can tell you that you are not ready for sex. When your ready you won't be so scared.
As far as having kids, please wait untill your atleast in a long term relationship. It's very rare that a guy your age will take responsibility for a child, and he wouldn't even be capeable really (with school and he's probably going to want a social life). A child deserves 2 parents, chances are you'll be raising the baby alone if you had one (atleast the majority of the time). Some young fathers do take responsibility, but from experience most don't. Also, it's not fair to you, how would u support it? do you have any idea how hard it is to go to school while raising a child? i went through high school with a baby, i finished on time, but it was hard and my marks weren't what they should have been, raising a child is very physicaly and mentaly exhausting, something u shouldn't have to go through at such a young age. I'm now going to college with 2 kids, it's very hard, you don't want to spend time studying after school because you want to spend time with the baby, but by the time he/she will be in bed you'll be too tired to study, it's very very hard. Get your education, find yourself a good man then think about having children.
Sex is a huge step and it's not something that should be taken lightly or be rushed into. If you want it to be special and something you want to remember forever as a beautiful moment(not forget like a lot of girls i know) then u really should wait untill the right guy comes along. You'll know he's the right guy when he sticks around without the sex and he doesn't pressure you to go farther than you want to. You need to find a guy who's willing to work on the emotional side of a relationship before it turning into a sexual relationship. Wait untill your life is stable (your out of school and have a stable job) before you worry about kids....when ur ready they are so worth it, my kids are my life, but it's so much easier and better for them and you to wait untill your life is in order.
Anyways, good luck and sorry for rambling, hehe

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